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Henrietta Sieberling on A.A.'s
beginnings, supplied by Cong. John Sieberling.. Congressman John Sieberling wrote: In the spring of 1971, the newspapers reported the passing of Bill Wilson of New York City, who as one of the two co-founders of Alcoholics Anonymous. The other co-founder, Dr. Robert Smith of Akron, Ohio, has passed on some years earlier. Shortly after Bill’s death, the Akron Alcoholics groups asked my mother Henrietta S. Seiberling, to speak at the annual “Founders Day” meeting in Akron, which is attended by members of Alcoholics Anonymous from all over the world. She lives in New York and did not feel up to traveling, so they asked me to speak in her place. |
I agreed to speak but felt that it would mean most to
them to hear some of her own words, so I called her on the telephone and asked
her to tell me about the origins of Alcoholics Anonymous so that I could make
sure my remarks were accurate. I made a tape recording of the conversation and
played part of it at the 1971 Founders Day meeting, which was held in the
gymnasium at the University of Akron with a couple of thousand people present.
So many people have asked for a transcript of the recording that I have finally
had one typed. Attached is a copy of the transcript, which follows the tape
recording as closely as possible, with only my own remarks and some of the
conversational asides and redundancies edited out.
The first meeting of Bob and Bill, described in the attached transcript, took
place in the summer of 1935 in Henrietta’s house in Akron, which was the
Gatehouse of Stan Hywet Hall, then my family’s estate, now the property of Stan
Hywet Hall Foundation.
Henrietta was not an alcoholic. She was a Vasser college graduate and a
housewife with three teenage children. She, like Bob and Bill, would be deeply
disturbed by any inference that she or they possessed any extraordinary virtues
or talents. On the contrary, they would all emphasize the power of ordinary
people to change their lives and the lives of others through the kind of
spiritual discipline so successfully exemplified in Alcoholics Anonymous.
I am happy to make this transcript available to persons who are sincerely
interested in learning more about Alcoholics Anonymous and its message. It is a
way of sharing some of the insight’s which made and still make Alcoholics
Anonymous a vital force in people’s lives. I ask only that the transcript be
held in the spirit in which it is offered and not used for publicity or in an
effort to magnify any individual.
John F. Seiberling
Transcript Of Remarks
Henrietta B. Seiberling:
I would like to tell about Bob in the beginning. Bob and Ann came into the
Oxford group, which, as you know, was the movement which tried to recapture the
power of first Century Christianity in the modern world, and a quality of life
which we must always exercise. Someone spoke to me about Bob Smith’s drinking.
He didn’t think that people knew it. And I decided that the people who shared in
the Oxford group had never shared very costly things to make Bob lose his pride
and share what he thought would cost him a great deal. So I decided to gather
together some Oxford Group people for a meeting, and that was in T. Henry
Williams’ house. We met afterwards there for five or six years every Wednesday
night.
I warned Ann that I was going to have this meeting. I didn’t tell her it was for
Bob, but I said, “Come prepared to mean business. There is going to be no
pussyfooting around. And we all shared very deeply our shortcomings, and what we
had victory over, and then there was silence, and I waited and thought, “Will
Bob say something?” Sure enough, in that deep, serious tone of his, he said,
“Well, you good people have all shared things that I am sure were very costly to
you, and I am going to tell you something which may cost me my profession. I am
a silent drinker, and I can't stop.” This was weeks before Bill came to Akron.
So we said, “Do you want to go down on your knees and pray?” And he said, “Yes.”
So we did.
And the next morning, I, who knew nothing about alcoholism (I thought a person
should drink like a gentleman, and that's all), was saying a prayer for Bob. I
said, “God, I don't know anything about drinking, but I told Bob that I was sure
that he lived this way of life, he could quit drinking. Now you have to help
me.” Something said to me – I call it “guidance” – it was like a voice in the
top of my head – “Bob must not touch one drop of alcohol.” I knew that wasn't my
thought. So I called Bob, and said I had guidance for him – and this is very
important.
He came over at 10 in the morning, and I told him that my guidance was that he
mustn't touch one drop of alcohol. He was very disappointed, because he thought
guidance would mean seeing somebody or going someplace. And then – this is
something very relevant – he said, “Henrietta, I don't understand it. Nobody
understands it.” Now that was the state of the world when we were beginning. He
said, some doctor had written a book about it, but he doesn't understand it. I
don't like the stuff. I don’t want to drink. I said, “Well, Bob, that is what I
have been guided about.” And that was the beginning of our meetings, long before
Bill ever came.
Now let me recall some of Bills very words about his experience. Bill, when he
was in a hotel in Akron and down to a few dollars and owed his bill after his
business venture fell through, looked at the cocktail room and was tempted and
thought, “Well, I’ll just go in there and get drunk and forget it all, and that
will be the end of it.” Instead, having been sober five months in the Oxford
Group, he said a prayer. He got the guidance to look in a ministers directory,
and a strange thing happened.
He just looked in there, and he put his finger on one name: Tunks. And that was
no coincidence, because Dr. Tunks was Mr. Harvey Firestone’s minister, and Mr.
Firestone had brought 60 of the Oxford Group people down there for 10 days out
of gratitude for helping his son, who drank too much. His son had quit for a
year and a half or so. Out of the act of gratitude of this one father, this
whole chain started.
So Bill called Dr. Tunks, and Dr. Tunks gave him a list of names. One of them
was Norman Sheppard, who was a close friend of mine and knew what I was trying
to do for Bob. Norman said, “I have to go to New York tonight but you can call
Henrietta Seiberling, “When he told the story, Bill shortened it by just saying
that he called Dr. Tunks, but I did not know Dr. Tunks. Bill said that he had
his last nickel, and he thought, “Well, I’ll call her.”
So I, who was desperate to help bob in something I didn’t know much about, was
ready. Bill called, and I will never forget what he said: “I’m from the Oxford
Group and I’m a Rum Hound.” Those were his words. I thought, “This is really
manna from Heaven.” And I said, “You come right out here.” And my thought was to
put those two men together. Bill, looking back, thought he was out to help
someone else. Actually, he was out to get help for himself, no thought of
helping anyone else, because he was desperate. But that is the way that God
helps us if we let God direct our lives. And so he came out to my house, and he
stayed for dinner. And I told him to come to church with me next morning and I
would get Bob, which I did.
Bill stayed in Akron. He didn’t have nay money. There was a neighbor of mine,
John Gammeter, who had seen the change in my life brought by the Oxford Group,
and I called him and asked him to put Bill up at the country club for two weeks
or so, just to keep him in town. After that, Bill went to stay with Bob and Ann
for three months, and we started working on Bill Dotson and Ernie Galbraith.
The need was there, and all of the necessary elements were furnished by God.
Bill the promoter, and I, not being an alcoholic, for perspective. Every
Wednesday night I would speak on some new experience or spiritual idea I had
read. That’s the way we all grew. Eventually the meetings moved to King School.
Some man from Hollywood came, an actor, and he said that he had been all over
the country and that there was something in the King School group that wasn’t in
any other group. I think it was our great stress and reliance on guidance and
quiet times.
Bill did a grand job. We can all see in his life what the Oxford Group people
had told us in their message: that if we turn our lives to God and let him run
it, he will take our shortcomings and make them valuable in His way and give us
our hearts desire. And when I got the word that Bill had gone on, I sat there,
and it was just as if someone had spoken to me again on top of my head.
Something said to me, “Verily, verily, he as received his reward.” So I went to
the Bible, and there it was, in Matthew VI. Then I looked at Bill’s story in
Alcoholics Anonymous where Bill had said that all his failures were because he
always wanted people to think he was somebody.
In the first edition of the book, he said he always wanted to make his mark
among people. And by letting God run his life, God took his ego and gave him his
hearts desire in God's way. And when he was gone, he was on the front page of
the New York Times, famous all over the world. So it does verify what the Oxford
Group people had told him.
Father Dowling, a Jesuit Priest, had first met our group in the early days in
Chicago, and he came to Akron to see us. And then he went on to New York to see
the others. And he said to one of our men, “This is one of the most beautiful
things that has come into the world. But I want to warn you that the devil will
try to destroy it.” Of course, it’s true, and one of the first things that the
devil could have used was having money, and having sanitariums' as the men were
planning. Much to Bob’s and Bill’s and Ann’s surprise, I said, “ No, we’ll never
take any
money.”
Another way where I saw that the devil could try to destroy us was having
prominent names. The other night I heard on TV special about alcoholics, a man
explaining why they are anonymous. And he showed that he didn’t really know why.
He just said that it wouldn’t do to let people know that you were an alcoholic.
That’s not the reason. In fact, the surest way to stay sober is to let people
know that you are an alcoholic because then you have lost something of
yourself.
I would say that the second way that I saw that the devil would be trying to
destroy
us was to have any names. Those who think that they are prominent or that they
have become leaders, all fail people because no one is on top spiritually all
the time. So I said, “We’ll never have any names.”
I feel that the whole wonderful experience of Alcoholics Anonymous came in
answer to a growing great need in the world, and this was met by the combination
of Bill, who was a catalyst and promoter, and Bob, with his great humility (if
you spoke to him about his contribution, he’d say, “Oh, I just work here.) and
Ann, who supplied a homeyness for our men in the beginning.
And I tried to give to the people something of my experience and faith. What I
was most concerned with is that we always go back to faith. This brings me to
the third thing that would be destructive to the early days, Bob and Bill said
to me. “Henrietta, I don’t think we should talk too much about religion or God.”
I said to them, “Well, we’re not out to please the alcoholics. They have been
pleasing themselves all these years. We are out to please God. And if you don’t
talk about what God does, and your faith, and your guidance, then you might as
well be the Rotary Club or something like that. Because God is your only source
of power.” And finally they agreed. And they weren’t afraid any more. It is my
great hope that they will never be afraid to acknowledge God and what he has
done for them.
The last A.A. dinner that I went to, over 3,000 people were there. And it was
the first meeting that I went to which I was disappointed in. There were two
witnesses there, a man and a woman, and you would have thought they were giving
you a description of a psychiatrist’s work on them. Their progress was always on
the level of psychology. And I spoke to Bill afterwards and I said that there
was no spirituality there or talk of what God had done in their lives. There
were giving views, not news of that God had done. And Bill said, “I know, but
they think there were so many people that need this and they don’t want to send
them away.” So there again has come up this same old bugaboo – without the
realization that they have lost their source of power.
This makes me think of the story of the little Scotch minister who was about to
preach his first sermon, and his mother hugged him and said, “Now, Bobbie, don’t
forgot to say a word for Jesus. Your mother always wants a word for God."
And then there is one other thought I‘d always like to stress, and that is the
real fact of God’s guidance. People can always count on guidance, although it
seems elusive at times.
Congressman John Seiberling placed this in the
Congressional Record on September 11, 1973
I would like to share a small story about Congressman Sieberling. In 1975, when
Robert Thomsen's biography of "Bill W." was published, the National Council on
Alcoholism arranged for a Congressional reception to be held in one of the House
of Representatives' office buildings. They invited all the Members of Congress
from Ohio and New York, because AA had started in those two states, and they
invited all the members of the committees which had jurisdiction over the
alcoholism legislation. I suggested a few other names of Members of Congress,
primarily those on the Appropriations Committees who would be deciding how much
money to earmark for alcoholism.
John Sieberling was the only member of the House of Representatives who showed
up. (One Senator, Edward Kennedy of Massachusetts, also attended.)
I saw Congressman Sieberling at the reception, just milling around. No one else
seemed to recognize him. So I introduced myself and saw that he met the NCA
people who were there, and that they knew his connection to A.A.
The next day I wrote him a brief note thanking him for coming to the reception
and mentioning that I owed my life to what his mother had helped start. When he
received my note he showed up unexpectedly in my office to ask my permission to
send the note to his mother. Of course, I gave the permission. Then Sieberling
said: "I called Mother this morning and told her that I had attended the
reception. Mother replied: 'you were touched.' I asked her what she meant and
she said 'John, you were touched by God, that's why you were there.'"
Sieberling humorous reply was "Mother, I don't know if I was touched, but I do
know that I was invited."
John Seiberling continued to support our efforts to bring more federal attention
to alcoholism during his entire time in Congress.
Nancy O.
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