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From surrender to transformation |
Why does A.A. work? To answer such a question, we have
to take seriously the spiritual basis of the A.A. program, which brings us face
to face with what might be called the "God stuff." Many skeptics, like most
actively drinking alcoholics, are put off by the importance of God to Alcoholics
Anonymous and its Twelve Steps, and view participation in AA as a substitution
of one addiction for another, supportive therapy, or group persuasion. AA's
embrace of a Higher Power, or "God as we understand Him," almost inevitably
elicits images of hypocrisy and smug piousness that are often associated with
organized religion.
AA early on made the distinction between religion and spirituality, a
distinction that is only now becoming more widely understood. Religion more
often involves accepting a specific dogma about the attributes of what is called
God, understood as being separate from the universe and from human beings. In
religion, belief may be more highly valued than a direct experience of a Divine
Presence. With spirituality it is just the opposite. The direct experience and
relationship with a Higher Power are primary, and belief systems are secondary,
or may even be considered an impediment, to developing the relationship. The Big
Book, Alcoholics Anonymous, states that to make use of spiritual principles one
need accept nothing on faith but only ask, "Do I now believe, or am I even
willing to believe, that there is a power greater than myself?" Only this
provisional belief is required to open the door to a radical shift in
experience.
In addition to the confusion between spirituality and religion, there is another
aspect to the resistance to the possibility of God. Western society is heir to
the Freudian or naturalistic mind-set that maintains that ifit can't be measured
or analyzed it doesn't exist. Until 12 years ago, I was convinced that all
spiritual experiences were illusions reflective of an underlying neurosis, and
until five years ago, never having read Carl Jung, I was convinced that he was a
woolly-headed mystic who was out of touch with reality. My experience since then
has persuasively demonstrated to me a reality that I once thought was just
wishful thinking, and my prior presuppositions have been called into question.
It's as if they divorced-Freud getting custody of the neuroses, Jung getting
custody of spirituality and its application to the addictions-and there has been
a family split ever since. Freud's heroic stoicism in the face of the suffering
associated with his cancer, his attitude that "my head is bloody, but unbowed
.... I am the master of my soul," is simply inappropriate for the addicted
person whose task is to stop attempting to control by exerting willpower and
open up the discovery of a Higher Power. An alcoholic has to give up willfulness
in favor of willingness.
Many alcoholics are sure that if they just change their thinking or act
differently, they will be able to control their drinking. Initially they are
often profoundly repelled by the "God stuff." Similarly, many therapists don't
understand why conventional therapeutic techniques are not enough to resolve a
serious drinking problem, and, after trying to apply such conventional
approaches, will dismiss the alcoholic or family as "Unmotivated," not realizing
that the task of recovery is to discover a new way of being that is not based
upon conventional motivation or willpower.
Alcoholics Anonymous is ingeniously arranged to generate what might be called a
planned spontaneous remission. One does not know when it will occur, but one
knows that it will occur if the drinker participates in the AA program.
AA is designed so that a person can stop drinking by either education,
therapeutic change, or transformation. A small percentage of people who attend
AA may be able to stop just by hearing the information presented about
alcoholism as a disease. The majority will go through a second-order change
similar to changes brought about in therapy. They bond to the group and use it
as a social support and a refuge to explore and release their suppressed and
repressed feelings. AA serves them as a "protective wall of human community." A
distinct minority will have a full-fledged transformative shift or "real
religious insight."
Our world had become polarized between a doubting, self-willed secular humanism
and a dogmatic, repressive fundamentalism. This century has been marked by
erratic oscillations between fragmented individualism and totalitarian
collectivism. What Buber called the genuine third alternative, the context of I
-Thou relationships, or the "between," has been almost totally occluded in our
time. Recovery from life-threatening addiction may be necessary to see that
there is a reality that cannot be reduced to individual fantasy or to collective
dogma.
The AA book Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions states: "Everywhere ... people
[are] filled with anger and fear, society breaking up into warring fragments.
Each fragment says to the others, 'We are right and you are wrong.' Every such
pressure group, if it is strong enough, self-righteously imposes its will upon
the rest.. ... Therefore, we who are alcoholics can consider ourselves fortunate
indeed. Each of us has had his own near-fatal encounter with the juggernaut of
self-will, and has suffered long enough under its weight to be willing to look
for something better. So it is by circumstances rather than by any virtue that
we have been driven to AA, have admitted defeat, have acquired the rudiments of
faith, and now want to make a decision to turn our will and out lives over to a
Higher Power."
"Turning our will and our lives over to a "Higher Power" needn't inspire visions
of the abdication of responsibility, of religious cults, or Jonestown. If we
look more deeply, we can see that Alcoholics Anonymous is perhaps unique among
organizations in our culture in that it has been able to tap into the human
thirst for oneness and belonging, while respecting individual dignity and
avoiding coercive tactics, exploiting its members, or relying upon external
support. Surrender by AA members to a Higher Power, in fact, consistently leads
to expanded, not diminished, responsibility for self and others. AA serves as
proof that it is possible to surrender to a Higher Power without giving one's
individual power away.
-David Berenson
-Family Therapy Networker
Excerpted with permission from The Family Therapy Networker (July/Aug. 1987).
Subscriptions: $20/yr. (6 issues) from The Family Therapy Networker, 8528
Bradford Rd., Silver Springs, MD 20901. Back issues $4 from same address.
Utne Reader November/December 1988
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